Your beliefs have an incredible impact on not only the choices you make in your life, but also the way that you see the things that happen to you. If you want to change something in your life, you may have to firs change your beliefs, especially if they are limiting your ability to achieve what you want to achieve.
If you want to change your beliefs, here are several questions that you can ask yourself:
1. What belief do you have that you want to change?
If you want to change a belief, you have to first be completely aware of the belief that you want to change. For example, if you believe that you will never be able to go to college, you will probably never be able to go to college because your belief is limiting you.
2. What has this belief cost you this far?
Look honestly at all the ways that your belief has limited you and make a list of them. For example, if you don’t believe you will be able to go to college, you may not have tried as hard in school. Be honest about the ways you have been limited because of your belief. Take your time with this list and write down every single thing you can think of that has been limited by this belief.
3. What advantages has this belief provided you?
Sometimes a belief that has been limiting you may have had some positive effects as well. Make a list of these as well. Be honest about this list also, and write down every advantage that has come from your belief. For example, maybe believing you will never go to college allowed you to take some classes that are not necessarily good on a college application, but you enjoyed them anyway. Being aware of these also is essential to changing the belief.
4. What belief do you want to develop to replace the one that has been limiting you?
Of course, if you want to eliminate a limiting belief in your life, you want to replace it with another belief you may have. For example, if you no longer want to believe you will not be able to go to college, you probably want to replace that belief with one that says you can go to college.
5. How is the new belief you want to have better than the old one?
Now is the time to compare the two lists you have made and use them to make another list. Write a list of ways that the new, positive belief will help you much better than the old one. Consider every advantage the new one will have over the old one and write it down.
6. How can you start making the new belief part of your life?
The final question you need to ask yourself is how you can go about actually making the change in your belief, how you can eliminate the limiting belief and replace it with the one that is helpful to you. What can you do to make the belief you can go to college happen, for example? You could start filling out applications for colleges.
Once you have asked yourself these questions and answered them honestly, the next step you need to take is to actually start developing the new belief and eliminating the old one that limited you. Start by almost “faking” the belief. Tell yourself every day what you want to believe and start living as if you truly believe it. Soon enough, you can make the new, helpful belief a reality.
There are many factors that influence what happens to us in our lives, but the one factor that influences both what happens to us and the choices that we make is our belief system. If you have a belief in your life that you have been living by and has been limiting you, you may want to change it. If you follow this plan, you can change your belief and ready yourself to replace it with a new, much more helpful one.